Being Truthful With Yourself

"You can control what you say and how you say it, but you can't control how others receive these words" was what my educator used to tell me. I believe this statement to be true in every sense. I recently encountered a situation whereby 'this person' confronted me regarding a incident. On my part I had to swallow my pride and apologize for the situation, rather than compromising 'this person' placed all blame on me, made me look foolish in front of others, lectured me as a child, and reacted as though the incident was all based solely on my responsibility.

'This person' clearly knew the consequences on what was about to occur, yet lied about it. Rather than taking appropriate steps to prevent any mishaps they waited for consequences to occur and began to point fingers at the next person. (as in this case me). I can honestly say I felt terrible and very belittled. 

Most situations can be prevented if all culprits take appropriate measures to prevent mistakes from occurring, it's not just "your fault". I knew the truth of what happened, and despite that this person pointed fingers at me telling me that it is 'my fault' and that is is 'my responsibility'...I know the truth. 

Be the bigger person, apologize for your part. If the other side does not acknowledge their wrongs there is nothing you can do to change their perceptions. Live truthfully, live honestly with yourself. You'll be able to move on with life with ease and without any hold-backs. Live freely and be at peace with your soul before you can be at peace with all other aspects of your life.

The Happy Bug

"I don't gotta lot'a education, I don't gotta lot'a nothing,
but I gotta lot'a personality, it's the gift that God gave me, so I just like to use this gift to brighten up everybody's day"

Panda Ross

     It's so easy to lose track of trying to achieve the ultimate happiness. High stress work environments, drama in the family, co workers, financial issues, kids, trying to catch up with what we call life. It truly is an on going cycle, and despite how positive I want to be I find myself also becoming a victim of being the 'complainer'. Just recently while watching the 'x factor' I found one of the contestants very intriguing. 

She appears to me like the epitome of happiness, with a soulful voice so soothing it makes you forget the troubles surrounding you. She is positive with a boisterous laughter so contagious that it makes me feel almost ashamed to be stressed about amendable situations, and or minor things that don't require being stressed about. 

Negative influences, complainers, from verbal to minor body language can really affect your day, from how your day begins to how it ends. Continuing this will only damper other people's happiness. We need the happiness reminder from time to time, and for me it was this one woman. Watch this video and hopefully it will remind you to be happy and live the simple life. Surround yourself by positive influences trust me it will make a whole world of difference. 

Make sure you guys shut off the music to the right to listen to the video! Cheers!

A Breath of Fresh Air....

As much as I hope to be a positive influence on others, I too experience the inevitable stress. Forces so strong I could almost cry every day..maybe for even pointless reasons...possibly because internally I am a worrisome individual. Daily stressors come with life it can either be limited and dealt with or your can fear it, be angered and run away. When you find yourself on the verge of a breakdown....you are entitled to a much needed break.

Regardless of where you are in life thinking of where, how, and when you'll make it through just stop. Continuing on the same routine and patterns and being unhappy furthers the burnout. Breaks and vacations are wonderful, despite it being one day, two days, or a week long break...it is a HUGE breath of fresh air that energizes the soul.

      Take it from me, a break does not require a large amount of spending, I always thought I should 'get away, go on a vacation, go to the bahamas' etc..jealous of others that are able to do so. Time and finances doesn't permit me to. Therefore, I decided to take a trip 3 and a half hours away for the long weekend. There I spent my time hiking two hours uphill on a mountain by moraine lake, the hike seemed long and thready, hills were steep and it was cold and rainy...it was an endless hike nevertheless, or what seemed to be anyhow. Yet on this endless walk, just midway on the edge finally......... a beautiful waterfall.

      The air so cold that fog would appear on every exhale, but the water was so warm. Every view as breath taking as the next it was well worth cold and the long distance.

Taking a break recycles the human spirit in every way possible. It allows you to regain who you are, to remember where you are at the present moment, to release any bad feelings that you had, and to relive again. 

Despite whatever status you stand at in life, remember you are entitled to a break, why entitled you say? It means YOU deserve it, for all the stressors and obstacles life gives to us, we deserve this precious moment of fresh air. 

LAKE AGNES TEA HOUSE ON TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN

OLD FASHION KETTLE KITCHEN IN THIS QUINT CABIN LIKE TEA HOUSE. SWEET AROMA OR BROWN SUGAR AND BAKING, HERE YOU CAN GET A VARIETY OF TEAS, CHAI, LATTES, OR HERBAL TEAS.

AFTER A STEAMING CUP OF TEA WITH MITTONS AND HIKING BOOTS, YOU CONTINUE THE NEXT HOUR HIKE TO THE SIX GLACIER MOUNTAINS.

Oh humility how i hate you so....

     One of the utmost worst feelings that encourages patience but forces a swallowing of pride is humility. As a person I don't think I could ever degrade another person in public or look down on others based on whatever their status is in life. Unfortunately there are those that do, possibly a co worker, an acquaintance or a random person. This feeling can cut like a sharp knife, open wounds that can bleed out feelings of embarrassment, anger, or pure sadness. 

How should one react? defensive with fight words? run away and hide? Its easy isn't it just to follow our instincts and use fight or flight, but I can honestly say blessed with experiencing humility builds tolerance. You learn to act in a professional and appropriate manner. Doing so will lessen further embarrassment as you've not stooped to such low levels unlike the opposing view. You'll most definitely be angered, you'll wish you've said 'this and that' but in the long run you'll thank yourself because essentially life moves on. That one microscopic moment will mean nothing in your entire lifespan of significant memories. That one moment you spent arguing is wasted breath on a non important person in your life. Realistically, shit does happen and humility does SUCK....but its how you handle the situation so that you don't further suffer the aftermath. 

You could either be confrontational until your face turns blue, then think about the situation when you got home and feel embarrassed for acting like a total idiot...OR ..You could talk in a calm and appropriate manner, admit when you are wrong then go home at the end of the day not give a two shits about the situation because you have moved on. Which one will you choose?

Can I rely on you?

     I just don't understand, I thought one's duty as a bridesmaid or groomsmen is to accept part of the responsibilities, to be the groom and the brides right hand person. To help, to assist, and to be at one's aid whenever needed. Now, I realize that every being has a schedule, Every being has their own time, and what is busy to them may not be busy to another and vice versa. I get that, I get every single aspect of that meaning. 

     However unless a circumstance involves work, sickness, a death or tragedy there should be no excuses. Excuses are crap words and gibberish junk the mind creates to deny responsibility. It is otherwise known as laziness. Once a commitment is made one should stick to their word. It makes for better friendships and a better lifestyle to my belief. 

     There is no such thing as "I'm too busy", there is a "I'm really busy at the moment" or "I'm busy for these next few days" but there's no such thing as "I'm always busy". Surely in a 24hour period there is at least one hour that can be spared to make a phone call, to text someone to say 'hello', and or drink a cup of coffee with a friend. In my case to show up during appointments when scheduled. Surely this is not all black and white, circumstances do change and I won't deny we all are selfish human beings doing what is best for ourselves. 

     Yet once a promise or commitment has been created try to stick on schedule as the other party has made the effort to spend their time with you. It's about being dependable, staying on schedule, and taking responsibility, some of which are good values to find in a good friend. Do you find yourself cancelling dates with friends, and making excuses discovering that friends are calling you less than usual? If so, it might be time to change as good friends are hard to find, and who knows you may need a good friend to lean on once an awhile.

when life gives you lemons throw it back in life's face!

This is so contradictory from the meaning of my blog but I tell ya I never realized how stressful wedding planning can be, ESPECIALLY if you certain traditions, religions, or superstitions to follow. Women especially are extra hard working and normally I really don't like complaining or becoming some sort of bridezilla but planning is really difficult. Women start exercising and dieting, they plan every little detail, work, yet at the same time attempt to maintain the house work and cooking. Men help to, but in my case very rarely....men's tux fitting is easy, weight is easy EVERYTHING comes easy whereas a woman's dress takes six months to order in advance?! yet another one of those crazy life's mystery. 

        On top of wedding stress and working out, a massive attack of acne appears and I am hooped, attempting to eat right doesn't help. Eating right for me consists of a healthy balanced diet with yogurt and fruits, and whole wheat, and despite cutting out processed sugars and all other foods I enjoy.... I start to break out.

(heres a tip for acne sufferers):

1) yogurt is high is bacterial cultures which leads to an increased susceptibility to acne breakouts

2) Coffee increases cortisol levels contributing to higher stress levels and ultimately acne

3) wheat increases blood glucose levels which produces insulin inducing inflammation and again....acne

Coffee the love of my life will be dropped from my life....i'm damaged to the center of my being! sigh! I am not one to follow a holistic cleansing hippie organic lifestyle. i like to eat and enjoy....but apparently life threw me a curve ball...if i eat and enjoy life is good but I'll suffer eternal acne and weight gain.......and for the price of beauty i'll have to throw out pretty much all foods I enjoy. I might as well crawl in a hole, live with smeagol and eat off raw dead fish and wait for that pretty little preciouuuusss...

A Friendly Reminder

okay readers, point blank..i know I SUCK at keeping up with blogging. I couldn't help it..life got in the way. Yes, so i've confined myself to life...the unbeknownst thing called marriage. I got engaged this past year and have been planning this tedious stressful wedding. Of coarse man doesn't do much since both choosing clothes and ideas for the wedding is 'anything good' to them, and for women it's 'every little detail'. Anyhoo life is busy for me so sorry readers and followers and friends. I have tons to share so you'll have plenty to read. I'm at a new chapter in my life with new events happy and sad, new pictures, and so on. Stay tuned y'all!

No You DI' int.

So you have been working hard at your goals, you feel good, you look good, you've been exercising hardcore, you dress up go to a party and nobody gives you the double take. nobody compliments you, in fact you receive a 'oh you look fat in that dress'...ohhhh say WHAT? hell no that didn't just happen right? Bam! you suddenly feel miserable, start eating like a food junkie, and you give up on your goals thinking that nothing will change anyways so you might as well continue the way things were.

So what happened in this story folks? As humans we ALL like compliments we ALL appreciate them despite feeling shy or humble it still makes one feel good internally. It's humanistic nature. However, the problem with society is that WE ARE ALL EXPECTING TO MUCH. Say to yourself if you LOOK good, you FEEL good, then so be it. no compliment from no man or woman should have to make you feel great about yourself.

So say for example you're working out and you've lost five pounds. Five pounds of weight loss equals those five self compliments that you've earned! Screw the empty compliments and keep on forward with your weight lost goals. Fact of the matter is, who knows if you're at some club by the end of the night some joe shmoe gives you his number and tells you that you look great could be just be a fat lie to 'get that little something extra'.

Instead save yourself the trouble and start complimenting yourself. Look how far you've fought to get where you are, to achieve what was unachievable to begin with. Be proud of yourself, how you look, how you feel, and what you've accomplished in life. Be your own self motivational speaker because in the end feeling bad or good depends on you.

Kudos!

Stay Committed!!

A billion people living with a billion commitments.

Commitments bear a great deal of responsibility and decision making. We all have them but how many of us follow through? Committed to work, exercise, having a social life, it all gets tedious and gruesomely tiring but we gotta go with the grind. it allows for better relationships, good organizational skills, and good feelings of accomplishments. For example, I am a workaholic. I love what I do, especially when I am getting paid overtime for it. Would I normally pass up the chance to say 'no' to OT??....hellz to the no

....but in this case I did.

I had made an appointment with an individual and although it might have been the least significant priority on my list I kept the appointment instead of cancelling. To the individual it was important, to me I felt like I had missed my cash flow and had envisioned moths flying out of my empty pockets. Regardless the individual was impressed and happy, I had a good time and learned good things. In the long run it was well worth it.

We all have commitments but keeping them in check is another. Stop cancelling and putting off certain responsibilities because you 'don't feel like it' or you'd rather be doing such and such. Stay committed, keep your promises, and follow through 100% because these commitments will give you positive results in the long run.

stay dedicated y 'all! woot!

Play Nice

Alright, I am not going to lie...and i'll say this right now people are definitely scrooges around this time of year. People are more stressed, in a rush, and in more of a 'curs-able' mood' I have a real tolerance for ignorance but who am I to kid....like we all never had that "i hope you get out of that car so I can ninja chop your ass" thought.

Come on' people tis the season to be kind, sharing, thoughtful, and downright respectful. I mean if you can't do it during any other time of year..THIS WOULD BE THE TIME. If you're going to be an asshole as a full time job at least do it during May, June, or July where the season is nice and nobody gives a shit.

But December....oh boy December is cold, people are stressed because they have to spend more money, more effort to gather the family and so on. So there's my rant..moral of the story ladies and gentlemen? the next time you're rude to someone...they could likely kick your A......no wait sorry moral of the story...always be nice to one another, whats the point in being Mr. mc'scrooge, we at least owe that much to one another ;)

Gambai (cheers)!!

Moving On...

So I am talking to a close friend, she tells me last night her boyfriend of five years has broken up with her. He tells her he loves her but has fallen out of love. Alright, I am definitely not one to talk about lovey dovey issues, but I've had my fair share of crappy excuses and break ups. Let's face it playing the dumper, especially the dumpee role sucks lemons. I never understood the concept of why people can't explain themselves. Every answer comes short formed such as "I'm sorry I just don't love you anymore". "I don't know", or "i'm sorry I don't know what else to tell you".

Surely people should know how or where or when things went wrong. If it was a combination of things then pray tell and give examples. Dumpers out there you should owe the dumpees THAT much at least, given the years of effort, tears, sweat, and energy. I guess that is how some relationships work, and personalities change along with emotions.

Being in love is great, and every loved one has engraved a piece of themselves within a relationship despite good and bad (hopefully more for good). However, many people have lost themselves in a relationship, we forget who we once were lacking in personal identity, so those of you who are in the midst of a break up, experiencing a fresh breakup, or have difficulty forgetting an old break up, revive your self independence and uplift your personal identity once again. I know it is easier said then done yet it's true and must be done.

Remember who you once were: Were you that independent self sufficient, stubborn yet loveable individual? Were you that selfish yet determined individual in which nothing could stop you from reaching your goals? Did you have a personal bucket list of goals you wanted to achieve? Were you one to always have Saturday parties with friends, and Sunday brunch with families? Main point is take what you learned and loved from the relationship and move on.

Moving on will take time but one way or another it will happen. This moment gives one a chance to take control of a situation and focus on one's self. Furthermore it may be a blessing into reaching great achievements without hindrance or to meet someone that is more suitable. So all you dumpee's out there keep your heads held high arch your back and keep on moving forward as some of the changes that occur may be more positive than you think!

Not Worth It

Y'ello People!

Ever get angry and raised on the defense at what people say? Jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, and fuming at comments that a loved one has made? I gotta say its just not worth it. I know for a fact there isn't one person out there that has not been upset at comments made from a parent or from a significant other. Let's face it, parents are opinionated, heck EVERYONE is opinionated in ways more so than others. The idea is control, otherwise the anger will consume you and you start rising to the defense "well if i ...this and that"..."well if you..this and that". It leads to blame, it leads to awkwardness, and useless arguments. Just think is it really worth it? Instead try talking about it and if that doesn't work then divert your energy elsewhere. Talk to friends, family, kick that shit out of a punching bag whatever works. It's not worth to argue and fight over nonsense because once you've got it under control and you let it pass things will go back to normal. You will have cooled down by that time and hopefully it will lead to better conversations!

cheers! <3

You make me AngShuS!

Whats Up World! Hope You all are doing well and dandy. I want to start off today by talking about the "A" word. No...no not that one and no it doesn't end with "hole" smart ass. Now, I just want to say it's these "A" type of people that will eat and grind at every fiber of your being, and Yes its a natural human emotion and I won't lie if I said I've never been a victim to this word.

So That being said are YOU an anxious person?

With every thing that humanity has to experience and go through anxious people make things even worse. They will sigh with extreme distress, and are uptight about the most miniscule details that can be easily fixed. Anxiety will go so far as to extend its energy and affect their surroundings. Needless to say the least anxious people and anal-ness go hand in hand. Either way they are "A" types. When anal people don't get their way they get anxious, those who are anxious attempt to become anal to seek balance and control of their anxiety. It's like a never ending cycle and these people never realize who they affect or how this form of negative energy can dampen the atmosphere whether it be work or play.

So prior to freaking out ask yourself these questions:
Can it be fixed? If not are the consequences THAT severe? (if any at all). Do I have the opportunity to change it the second time? Have I learned anything from this? Is it the end of the world and zombies have become the living dead? Do I have a flesh eating disease?

If you've answered 'no' for either one of the last two questions YOU'LL BE FINE. So stop making a big stink out of the most ridiculous nonsense, take a deep breath, come to your senses, regain your strength and take a chill flippin pill y'all!

"revenge feels great but love feels even greater!" - quju

peace!

Overworked and Underpaid....

Hi all!

Sorry been away for the longest time readers! Okay so here are all the things that have happened to me thus far, I graduated, I got a job, I had to support my significant other in job transitions, I got engaged, fought for my parent's blessings and now here I am.

I've been working and trying to save and save and thought long and hard how difficult it is to live without finances. Let's beat the sugar coating and get straight...you can't live good without money, but truth of the matter is you can work your bazookas off but it will never be enough. As humans we always want more and more, people want to work hard and play hard. Sometimes we become so preoccupied with ourselves we forget what it is like to rest, to reserve our energy, to relax, heal, and most of all.....to calm the fuck down (excuse my poor verbals). Fatigue and stress is our biggest enemy, it consumes you, it makes you older physically and mentally, and it weakens the soul to liberation and success in life.

The world is consistently moving at such a fast rate, everyone is in a rush to get married, to pay bills, to do chores, to be the wonder parent, etc etc and the list goes on. That's just it. The list will forever go on. If you have a job money will always flow and I am not insinuating on spending all that you have, but take a break from work if you can. Don't try to push that extra over time. Treat yourself to a massage, the spa, buy yourself a gift, allow friends to babysit and go on a date, and say to yourself I'm going to enjoy myself because I definitely deserve it! So take a break, look at what surrounds you and take a deep breath!

*Cheers*

Been Awhile Crocodiles

Hi All!

Life you know how it is busy busy busy so I apologize for not writing a post for some time now! Anyways I'm out of the Mac and ready to attack thank you for all your support to my few readers and for future readers sorry for not being able to get back to you! Any hoo I'm still here and this blog is still alive.........hopefully =)

Also, I am taking part of a fundraising event for children with disabilities and special needs. I know we are all a little tight on our budget now a days which I fully understand but if we can all get together and help pitch in a penny or two or more lets help these children have a better advantage. To be able to receive things we wanted in our childhood so I hope you all can help me out and sponsor me in this event whereby I will be rappelling i think 29 stories for these children!

The link is

http://my.e2rm.com/personalPage.aspx?SID=3059940&Lang=en-CA

If you sponsored me thank you!
if you considered it thank you!
if you read this post thank you!
Lets make the world a better place, peace, love, and wishing you all happy days!
*cheers*

Are YOU a Vacuum?

Now we all know and tell ourselves not to be open to negative energy etc etc. We all should live by this rule but truth of the matter: not everyone gets along with everyone. Whether it be a co worker, student colleague, or team mate. It also becomes extremely difficult when negativity comes from those that you need assistance from, things such as a referral, a reference, or a good grade.

There are those who want you to succeed, there are those who willingly help depending on good performance, but there are those who feed off negativity and make your life miserable because they know you need them. They grill you with questions you have no answers to, they laugh at you when they feel you 'should' know something but you don't, you try hard but receive no positive feedback, and rather than help they enjoy pulling you into a downwards spiral.

These people are what I like to call the Vacuum.
one tracked direction, ugly, full of dirt, and sucks you in.

It is easy to become discouraged by people of this nature, but think of it as the biggest challenge and accomplishment in your life. If these people like to play than play back harder. You don't know the answers go look it up, if you 'should' have known but didn't than you learn, if you make a mistake understand it and don't do it again, and most of all give yourself credit and a pat on the back.

You've lived something odd years thus far without 'Vacuum's' feedback and surely you don't require it to move on in life. Do what is necessary, be open to constructive feedback, and maintain positive no matter what, because once you are done with the vacuum brush off the dirt and throw it in the closet!

20 centimeters of kindness

Okay, it's snowing ridiculously where I am from. Flights getting delayed, people not showing up for work, and vehicles getting stuck, all for the sake of 20 centimeters of heavy snow. Now I know people have their daily agendas for the day and unless it is an emergency or one is in a rush, would it really kill to stop and help the individual out of a rut? Especially if you drive a 4x4 and have the necessary equipment to assist, such as a shovel, rope, or solid breakers.

I see others driving by nonchalantly like Mr. bean and his bean mobile without a care as to look at others. We all live on this forsaken earth experiencing the same forsaken circumstances. The single most important thing we all have is each other. So do a good deed, give what you have to offer and take a little time to help. Surely, everyone needs a push when stuck in 20 centimeters of snow...............

unless you live in nice warm weather than never mind......................j/k.
cheers!

Got My Eye on You

Waiting to cross
Over sized Yellow raincoat
Big rubber boots

Bright Lights Glare
Almost blinding. foggy
Flickering Mist from the rain

dripping cold.
wet.
shivering.

Soaked from droplets
and splashes from side passing cars
Pedestrian Lights switches on behind dark solid grid lines
Looking both ways, cold...wet...shivering.

Final step to end of the gray mildly cracked pavement
stop light flashes, a car begins to pass
A glance. A smile

Waiting to cross
In big rubber boots.

Glimmer of sunlight
drips of remaining rain
Warmth. A breath. A smile.

Always smile people as you never know who is watching
You just may have caught someones attention as your smile just made you 100% more attractive!

*cheers to all you lovely people*

Series of Unfortunate Events

We've all had our share of bad days and to say the least we are all allowed to be feeling depressed, sad, and confused. A mix of emotions that stir the mind when unfortunate events occur, events that are controlled by fate, destiny, with or without reason, or affected by negative choices from loved ones.

The significance lies in how we take the next step in rectifying the situation; talking with friends, exercising, taking some time away to think, or compromising with loved ones. Whatever cards you are dealt with in life confront your dilemmas and attempt to handle them the best way possible. Although we cannot control life's events we are able to control the aftermath, it's up to you to make your journey a positive or negative experience.

Adele's New Hit "Rolling in the Deep".
This soulful song rips the shit right off the wall. Enough Said, give it a listen.

Turn down my music on right hand side before you play.