Showing posts with label blame. Show all posts
Showing posts with label blame. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Being Truthful With Yourself

"You can control what you say and how you say it, but you can't control how others receive these words" was what my educator used to tell me. I believe this statement to be true in every sense. I recently encountered a situation whereby 'this person' confronted me regarding a incident. On my part I had to swallow my pride and apologize for the situation, rather than compromising 'this person' placed all blame on me, made me look foolish in front of others, lectured me as a child, and reacted as though the incident was all based solely on my responsibility.

'This person' clearly knew the consequences on what was about to occur, yet lied about it. Rather than taking appropriate steps to prevent any mishaps they waited for consequences to occur and began to point fingers at the next person. (as in this case me). I can honestly say I felt terrible and very belittled. 

Most situations can be prevented if all culprits take appropriate measures to prevent mistakes from occurring, it's not just "your fault". I knew the truth of what happened, and despite that this person pointed fingers at me telling me that it is 'my fault' and that is is 'my responsibility'...I know the truth. 

Be the bigger person, apologize for your part. If the other side does not acknowledge their wrongs there is nothing you can do to change their perceptions. Live truthfully, live honestly with yourself. You'll be able to move on with life with ease and without any hold-backs. Live freely and be at peace with your soul before you can be at peace with all other aspects of your life.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Not Worth It

Y'ello People!

Ever get angry and raised on the defense at what people say? Jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, and fuming at comments that a loved one has made? I gotta say its just not worth it. I know for a fact there isn't one person out there that has not been upset at comments made from a parent or from a significant other. Let's face it, parents are opinionated, heck EVERYONE is opinionated in ways more so than others. The idea is control, otherwise the anger will consume you and you start rising to the defense "well if i ...this and that"..."well if you..this and that". It leads to blame, it leads to awkwardness, and useless arguments. Just think is it really worth it? Instead try talking about it and if that doesn't work then divert your energy elsewhere. Talk to friends, family, kick that shit out of a punching bag whatever works. It's not worth to argue and fight over nonsense because once you've got it under control and you let it pass things will go back to normal. You will have cooled down by that time and hopefully it will lead to better conversations!

cheers! <3